Nowadays people are born to find fault.
When they look at Achilles, they see only his heel.
-Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach
I will tell you one thing -
if you want peace of mind,
do not find fault with others.
-Sarada Devi
Finding fault in others, developing skill
at discovering weaknesses and inconsistency in others,
will begin to eat into your peace of mind.
If you keep it up forever,
you will eventually rob you of all the joys of life.
-James Magnan
To find fault with others
creates obstacles for everyone all around:
for him who criticizes, for him who is blamed,
as well as for those who listen to the criticism.
Whereas, what is said in a spirit of appreciation
is fruitful for everybody.
-Anandamayi Ma
To constantly remind a person of his faults
is to cause him to become more keenly conscious of those faults.
He will think more and more about his faults,
and will thereby cause his faults to become
more prominent and troublesome than they ever were before.
-Christian Larson
To find fault never pays;
it only brings enmity, discord and criticisms;
besides the faults we constantly see in others
will develop in ourselves.
-Christian Larson
Everyone has a side which can be criticized and wants repairing.
When one looks at that side,
one accumulates impressions which make one more and more imperfect
because they collect imperfection; and then that becomes one's world.
And when the mind has become a sponge full of undesirable impressions,
then what is emitted from it is undesirable also.
No one can speak ill of another without making it his own.
-Hazrat Inayat Khan
If you look for the bad in people,
you will surely find it.
-Abraham Lincoln
There are no end of faults
in a human being.
-Hazrat Inayat Khan
Nothing so needs reforming
as other people's habits.
-Samuel Clemens, "Mark Twain"
Everyone is eagle-eyed
to see another's faults and deformity.
-John Dryden
One sees qualities at a distance
and defects at close range.
-Victor Hugo
We are never more discontented with others
than when we are discontented with ourselves.
-Henri Frederic Amiel
They know not their own defects
who search for the defects of others.
-Sanskrit Proverb
Man sees in another
his own fault.
-Hazrat Inayat Khan
The more one understands oneself,
the more one finds that everything one finds lacking in others
is also lacking in oneself.
-Hazrat Inayat Khan
Seeing others faults
Means that one's own faults are strengthened.
-Seng-ts'an
Man sees the right side of his own mind
and the wrong side of another's.
-Hazrat Inayat Khan
The faults of others console us in our own.
-Paul Eldridge
If we were faultless
we should not be so much annoyed
by the defects of those with whom we associate.
-Francois Fenelon
If we had no faults
we should not take so much pleasure
in noting those of others.
-Francois de la Rochefoucauld
He that fancies himself very enlightened
because he sees the deficiencies in others,
may be very ignorant,
because he has not studied his own.
-Edward Bulwer-Lytton
Faults, mustard seed small, of others, you see well;
your own, as large as a melon, you see not.
-Mahabharata
The disease of men is this:
that they neglect their own field,
and go weed the fields of others,
and what they require from others is great,
while what they lay upon themselves is light.
-Mencius
In a general and almost absolute way
anything that shocks you in other people
is the very thing you carry in yourself
in a more or less veiled, more or less hidden form,
though perhaps in a slightly different guise
which allows you to delude yourself.
And what in yourself seems inoffensive enough,
becomes monstrous as soon as you see it in others.
-Mirra Alfassa, "The Mother"
How long will others' faults distract your mind
Your own accuse you, but your heart is blind...
When someone else's failings are defined
What hairs you split - but to your own you're blind!...
If you search for love and persevere
The sins of other men would disappear.
-Farid ud-Din Attar
When you are offended at any man's faults,
turn to yourself and study your own failings.
Then you will forget you anger.
-Epictetus
It is far better to know our weaknesses and failings
than to point out those of others.
-Jawaharlal Nehru
Let us look at our own shortcomings
and leave others people's alone.
-Teresa of Aivila
Bear with the faults and frailties of others,
for you, too, have many faults which others have to bear.
-Thomas a Kempis
Remember, it is good for you to bear those around you,
because they also bear you.
-Samuel Johnson
By accusing another of his fault
you only root him more firmly in it.
-Hazrat Inayat Khan
Always remember that a person
that you find fault with a great deal,
will finally rebel.
-E. W. Howe
Every man should keep a fair-sized cemetery
in which to bury the faults of his friends.
-Henry Ward Beecher
It is much easier to find a fault
than to overlook a fault.
-Anonymous
What keeps man from forgiving his fellow man
is that he holds the fault of another
constantly before his view.
-Hazrat Inayat Khan
If you are pleased at finding faults,
you are displeased at finding perfections.
-Johann Kaspar Lavater
It is only imperfection that complains of what is imperfect.
The more perfect we are,
the more gentle and quiet we become towards the defects of others.
-Francis Fenelon
I look only to the good qualities of men.
Not being faultless myself,
I won't presume to probe into the faults of others.
-Mohandas Gandhi
Faultfinding is a fault
that should be found by the faultfinder.
-A. S. Vickers
Find fault when you must find fault in private,
and if possible sometime after the offense,
rather than at the time.
-Sydney Smith
Rare is the person
who can weigh the faults of others
without putting his thumb on the scales.
-Byron J. Langenfield
Even with God one can find fault.
But where is the fault?
In the person who finds it.
-Hazrat Inayat Khan
If we close our eyes to the defects of our neighbour,
and only consider his good qualities,
we shall find good and benevolence everywhere.
The most perverse man has a good side to him,
and softens when one knows how to take him.
If you had nothing in common with the vices of men,
you would not even perceive them.
-Eliphas Levi
Love in the making sees faults;
love in the fulfillment sees none.
-Papa Ramdas
Faults are beauties in a lover's eye.
-Theocritus
They came to tell your faults to me,
They named them one by one;
I laughed aloud when they were done,
I knew them all so well before, -
Oh, they were blind, too blind to see
Your faults had made me love you more.
-Sara Teasdale
When we see the reason behind every fault
that appears to us in anyone we meet in our life,
we become more tolerant, we become more forgiving.
-Hazrat Inayat Khan
We are now living in a new age.
It is no longer good form to find fault with anything.
-Christian Larson
I vow not to talk about
the faults of others.
-Thubten Chodron
